How to make tough decisions in life and in your nursing career
There is a fallacy called a false dichotomy, it has also been called an all-or-nothing fallacy. A false dichotomy can make you feel like you have limited options when that simply is not true. To begin with, a dichotomy looks at two different things in opposition. So when someone says a “false dichotomy” they are referring to thinking/acting like you only have two options when in reality you have multiple options. It’s important to identify when we fall trap to a false dichotomy. Often, they prey on us in emotionally charged situations.
Let’s check out this scenario. Mariam is a single mom of one teenager and 2 adult children. She is having problems making ends meet and she wants to go to school full-time. She has two vehicles; one is paid off the other is a $40,000+ vehicle that she is still making payments on. She lives in a 4-bedroom 2800 square foot home that is not yet paid off. She views herself as having two options:
1. Keep working nonstop to make ends meet and delay going back to school
2. Not work as much go to school and take out student loans to cover her bills
She has determined that she can’t do both. Given her situation she probably can’t.
In situations such as this it is so important to think outside of the box. Avoid getting into a mindset where you think you only have two options.
Her other options: Downsize in home and/or downsize in car. Possibly look at going to school part-time. In your life you might have a situation where you think you’re stuck between two decisions.
Option 1: Is good for you/your family but a bad choice financially
Option 2: is bad for you/your family but it’s a good choice financially
Is that really your only options? I would challenge you to look again and think outside the box. Is there an option 3 or 4 that actually solves the problem and is both good for you/your family & is a good choice financially? Consult with a third party, someone who can give you fresh insight!
And remember, options are KING!
This is something I wish I knew during nursing school and after I was done with school. I fell into this trap so many times in my school and working career.
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